Dear Julia:

I too am psychic, and have had spirit communication experiences. However, ever since my husband and I separated, my intuition has been either so strong it throws me or completely blocked. I know I have not come close to reaching my fullest potential, so what is holding me back? What is causing this imbalance? My youngest son born 4/9/98 is also showing psychic signs as well. He is amazing; he always tells me things, and when I ask him who told him, he says "God and my brain."
Thanks for your input!
- Lisa

Dear Lisa:

First, know that this is entirely normal. Everything in life comes and goes. For example, we go through periods when we're feeling strong and healthy, and other periods when we feel worn down and weary. We go through periods when we feel happy and optimistic, and periods when we're gloomy. Psychic ability is no different.

There are many different factors that influence how consciously connected we feel to our own intuitive guidance. First, as we begin to open psychically, it's normal to not know how to control it. After all, it's not like we have a lot of role models around us teaching us how it's done. In fact, it's considered unusual (not normal) to be psychic in our society, so people who begin to develop their abilities have to take a sort of hit and miss approach to figuring things out on their own. With time and experience, we gain control.

Even once we've developed that control, however, we are still subject to natural spiritual law. Everything we experience in life can be reduced to a matter of vibration. If we raise our vibration via positive thinking, faith, etc., then we naturally rise into the "psychic zone." If our vibration lowers due to negative thought/emotion or other factors, then we fall out of the psychic zone. When we focus on love and light, we become love and light, and walk in the light of Spirit.

It is totally normal to experience what you're experiencing at a time of major personal transition, for on one hand, you are choosing to realign with your truest self, which is powerful. You are leaving behind that which is no longer a good fit for you, and in honoring your truth this way, your light shines brighter and your inner voice is encouraged to keep talking! As you release the past and open to a bright new beginning, your heart and spirit soar into the high vibration of hope, optimism, etc.

At the same time, huge transitions like divorce/ separation often produce a lot of fear and negative emotion, which lowers our vibration and closes us off from psychic abilities and guidance from Spirit (and just when we need it the most!) To tune in psychically, we have to be able to step outside of ourselves and our ordinary lives, outside of our subjective desires and fears. This is much harder to do when we're in the midst of a major drama. Even great psychics will go to another psychic or spiritual counselor for guidance when they know they are too "attached" to hearing certain answers.

Times of major transition are almost always times of spiritual growth, so it's normal to experience a "surge" of psychic phenomena or energy. As everything is turned on its head, we naturally stop and really question our lives and what we're supposed to be doing and if there is a higher plan, etc. Many people never "talk to Spirit" at all until something happens to them that is really upsetting like the death of a loved one, a divorce, etc. That deep introspection sparks big spiritual growth. The more we can move through big changes with faith, the more we will be able to make the most of these growth experiences.

Another thing that often throws psychics off track is a traumatic experience that causes them to question their own judgment. Whether we're "wrong" in a reading or have created a mess in our personal lives, when we start to question our judgment, we can disconnect from our psychic abilities. Even if we're handling the vast majority of our lives beautifully, if one relationship or situation falls apart, it's often all we can think about or focus upon, which only makes things worse. A psychic may have a 99% accuracy rate, but if she is like me, she will probably focus on the 1% when she appears to be "wrong." If you are wondering how you got yourself into your current life situation and questioning the judgment that led you to marry your husband, or that led to this separation, then in not trusting yourself, you are closing yourself off to your own intuition. This can become a downward spiral, for as you doubt yourself, your intuition is compromised, and thus you see more and more of what you are looking for: evidence that you can't trust your intuitive abilities.

This is part of what I feel is going on with you; you're beating yourself up for the way things are with your husband, and doubting your own judgment. Other people will go to the opposite extreme and lie to themselves, blame others, and rationalize their behavior when they're in the midst of big emotional challenges. Their egos are just not ready to face the full truth about their role in creating their experiences yet. Again, we have to be able to rise above ego and be objective to tap a higher spiritual perspective and our own psychic abilities.

Another factor here is your high sensitivity. Because you are so sensitive, it's natural for you to take on others' emotions. Divorce/ separation usually generates some very intense feelings, and you've probably at times had to shut yourself off empathically when your husband was struggling emotionally.

So in summary, this major life change has brought big growth opportunities but also a lot of emotional challenges, and this is what is causing the wild swings in your psychic ability. One minute you're soaring to new heights, and the next you're struggling to maintain that high vibration again. As your personal path evens out, your psychic ability should stabilize.

To dial it back up when you're feeling disconnected, I recommend you stop and process any emotions churning inside you. If you're caught up in negative emotion, wait until you're feeling calm and centered to tune in. Then vividly remember some of your most amazing psychic experiences. As you vividly remember how it felt to access information psychically, you'll be led into that same state of consciousness, which will facilitate "psychic success." As you then witness confirmation of your abilities, you'll get on an upward spiral with your abilities, where "success" leads to greater faith in your intuition, which boosts your abilities further, etc.

Also, you might try using amethyst quartz with the conscious intention of raising your vibration. Amethyst can be great help when we're seeking peace and spiritual perspective. It's wonderful for consciously moving to a higher vibration.

As for your son's blossoming psychic abilities, I feel this is separate from your own situation. He's simply inherited your abilities, and you're seeing them come out now because he's now old enough to communicate what he's perceiving and young enough to be open and accepting about it. You've done a good job in listening to him and validating him; keep it up!

The more you can walk through this time of transition with faith and peace, the more connected you'll feel to Spirit, and the easier everything will be. This can be a time of tremendous psychic development if you can stay centered in your faith!

- Julia