Dear Julia:
I'm a 33-year-old married mother of two. I work as an administrative assistant in a corporate environment. About nine months ago, the company hired a new executive, and while I don't work directly for him, I often see him around the office and sometimes have to interact with him for my boss. Here's the thing: he totally gives me the creeps. I don't know what it is about him. He usually looks away when we make eye contact, but I swear I can FEEL his eyes roving over me when my back is to him. He doesn't seem dangerous or anything, just creepy. What's happening here and what should I do?
- Andrea
Dear Andrea:
Thanks for a great question! First we must remember that everything in the universe is composed (ultimately) of energy. Living beings (people, plants, animals) are composed of dynamic energy, which is to say that they are constantly interacting with other energy systems. If you've ever had a fuzzy radio station suddenly come through clearer as you approached the receiver to fix the dial, you've experienced firsthand the interaction between your energy field/aura and the energy field of the radio.
At some level, we are all aware of these energetic interactions, though for most people this awareness is subconscious. We are drawn to some people and naturally avoid others. When we accurately sense someone looking at us, what we are sensing is their energy interacting with ours. Some clairvoyants can perceive not only the auras of individuals, but also interactions between people's auras.
These interactions are happening constantly, not only when we literally interact with others, but also when we just think about them. Whenever we give someone our attention, we are giving them energy. For the sake of illumination, we might imagine that non-living objects (such as bowls, spoons, rugs, etc.) are composed of rock, while living beings are like sponges, and energy is like water. When we focus on the bowl, our energy-water just rolls over it. It will be "wet" for a while with our energy, but otherwise unaffected. When we focus on a person, however, she will soak up our energy, and in focusing back on us, she will squeeze some energy-water our way as well.
Praying for someone is a very powerful energy exchange in that it's a very concentrated, focused flow of positive energy toward that person. Energy healing is similar though even more powerful because the recipient is generally aware and consciously accepting and absorbing that healing energy. Just as healers can use energy to positively affect those they are trying to heal, anyone can use energy to try to do whatever they want to others. If we're "creeped out by" or afraid of someone, our intuition is alerting us to an undesirable energetic interaction. Further, if we succumb to fear or other negative emotion when this happens, we basically open up our auras to those outside influences.
If you think about this, it only makes sense. When we're not afraid of someone or don't give a darn what they think of us, they don't have the power to affect us. When we worry about what others think or succumb to fear of them, then we are definitely letting them affect us, and this is true both psychologically and at an auric level. People who want things from us that we don't really want to give naturally make us uncomfortable. This feeling is our intuition raising a self-protective alert.
The more time we spend with people, the more their energy will affect ours. With people who make us feel good, we will open up our energy field the minute we see them coming, because we expect to get a nice boost. With people who generally make us feel bad (whether that means we feel insecure, frustrated, angry, creeped out, jealous, etc.), even though we may "brace" ourselves, we will tend to open up our energy field (unintentionally) as soon as we see them coming by succumbing to negative emotion. That negative emotion lowers our vibration and thus our "psychic defenses" come down. The best "psychic defense" is thus the radiation of white/loving light, for it instantly obliterates all darker energies.
When we get over our negative feelings about various people and situations, we do become immune to them, but this is easier said than done much of the time. It's easier and more effective to radiate love and light than to ignore a source of discomfort, for while we may think we're ignoring someone, in ignoring them actively, we're actually thinking about them. It's sort of like telling yourself not to think about the color yellow.
Years ago, I experienced an interesting example of an auric interaction similar to what I believe is happening with your coworker. I had just begun to see auras, and I was waiting for a friend to eat dinner in the large coop house she shared with about a dozen other university students. As I was sitting there relaxed, just looking around, I noticed a young man enter the dining room. He looked at my friend, who was facing the other direction, preparing her plate. As he looked at her, I saw a tentacle of deep murky red energy extend from his solar plexus, travel across the room, and sort of "swarm" all over her energy field. As soon as this "tentacle" made contact with her field, she stiffened, then turned around and looked directly at him with an annoyed look on her face. There was an instantaneous flash of white hot light from her, and at that moment the tentacle of energy was abruptly withdrawn.
Later when I told her what I had seen, she explained that he was someone she'd been having a lot of trouble with, for he was constantly harassing her sexually. It was then that I put together consciously what I had witnessed. He had been fantasizing about her sexually, and I had seen both his "fantasy" and her recognition at a less than conscious level of this. She had simply "felt" someone looking at her and blasted him off with her energy. (As she engaged in auric "battle" with him, this pattern continued).
This is similar to what I think is happening in your case. Your coworker is probably fantasizing about you, and you are "feeling" this at a semi-conscious level. Your intuition is alerting you via that "creepy" feeling that his energy is creeping up on you. Then when you "confront" this man with eye contact, he immediately withdraws his energy for he fears being "detected."
The best thing you can do is drop your fear/uneasiness around him. Start by recognizing that he's not really doing you any harm, and thank your intuition for "alerting you" to the situation. Then whenever he creeps you out, just counter his energy by turning up your own light. Don't be antagonistic, just stand very tall in your aura and let the contrast of the feeling/experience remind you to consciously align with something more desirable. Affirm that you live in a reality that is divinely bright and beautiful, where everything happens for a good reason, and only good things come to you. Blind him with a bright smile/burst of light, and then shift your thoughts to something or someone you find divine. While he may still be attracted to your lovely energy, he won't really be able to get near you, because your high vibration will put you out of his "range."
For more information on auric interactions, I highly recommend the classic books Hands of Light and
- Julia
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